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Differences that change the conversation

The same checklist

Structure and autonomy

Anna gives Tomasz and Olek the same detailed checklist. It helps one of them move forward while taking ownership away from the other.

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Anna gives Tomasz a detailed checklist, which he welcomes.
Here are the steps and the acceptance criteria.
Perfect.
Tomasz works calmly with the checklist and knows exactly when the task will be complete.
I know exactly when this is complete.
Anna gives the same checklist to Olek, seated in his wheelchair, who reacts uncertainly.
Here are the steps and the acceptance criteria.
Okay…
Olek tensely follows the checklist and loses his sense of autonomy.
Why did they hire me if all I’m supposed to do is tick boxes?
Anna sees that the same checklist gave Tomasz structure but took away Olek's room to act.
I gave you exactly the same thing.
You gave me structure.
And you took away my room to move.
Em, the Empatyzer coach
Tomasz experiences a detailed checklist as support and clarity, while Olek experiences it as a restriction on his judgment. As a result, the same management style makes one person more confident and signals distrust to the other. Do not give everyone identical structure. Agree on the needed level of support and the room for independent choice.